How to be brilliantly disruptive: Be disruptive, be yourself do not play by other's rules... Make your own.

To be brilliantly disruptive, make your own rules, the rules of the game.

• Say NO. If you do not want to do something do not accept just to please others. Put yourself first. This by no means is to be selfish. You are just asserting yourself. If you dread going to Christmas dinner at your mother's in law every year, this year just say NO. I am not going and have your own Christmas dinner. Your husband might be upset at the start but in the long term you will have gained his respect for being able to stand up for yourself.

• Trust yourself. Trust your feelings.

• Do not fade into the shadows, make yourself noticeable and formidable. If people see that you cannot be intimidated... they will not try to intimidate you.

• Feel the right to be yourself, to take what you want, to want what you always dreamt. 
• Be Beautiful, Be Bold, Be You, Trendy Plus Size Women's Fashion at Torrid.com Wear vivid colours: red instead of pink, blue instead of turquoise, yellow instead of mustard.   Vivid colours convey strength as opposed to "camouflage" and pastel colours which send a message of uncertainty on the wearer's part

• Enhance your strengths, stand tall, be proud of who you are. 

• Build strength and authority into your voice talking louder to make sure you are heard.  Use declarations and statements instead of questions.  Speak in declarations and others will take you seriously because they know that you mean what you say. 

• Do not limit your desires, instead find a way of valuing them.

• Learn the distinction between the things in your power and those things that are not in your power.  There is no point on setting your heart on those things where you do not have any power (like a lovers attitude towards you or your health) Concentrate on those things that you can control. 

• Ask for Everething because nothing less is worth having!  If you don't ask for things you will never get them.  People are drawn to big ideas and adventures, go for big things!

For more tips on how to improve your self esteem check my article on  How to be brilliantly disruptive on HubPages.

Plus size Sweaters for Women

Turtle Neck Sweaters

Turtlenecks sweaters draw attention to your face, so they are best suited for women with small features or thin faces.  When wearing a plus size turtle neck sweater, make sure that your make up is flawless and your hair is well styled.  If you have long hair, you might want to try to tie it in a ponytail to free your face and add visual distance between your shoulders and neck.

Dress your sweaters up or down according to the occasion, the time of the day or your mood. 

Dress your sweater up or down with accessories to get different looks from the same sweater.  Try changing the look of a simple dark turtle neck sweater adding a gold chain with a delicate pendant for the office or funky jewellery for a day out.  Long strings of pearls also look good on top of a sweater; just make sure that the pearls are not too big and that they are long enough to visually elongate your silhouette.  A scarf is also a clever way to change the look of your outfit.  

Tailored Sweaters

If you wear a plus size you will look better with sweaters that are tailored and softly skim your figure.  Wearing plus size clothes doesn’t mean hiding behind meters of material, instead you should outline your silhouette emphasizing your best assets and skimming over your problem areas.  Avoid wearing too large or too tight sweaters.  If your sweater is too large it will make you look larger and shapeless and if it is too tight if will show off unsightly bumps. 

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Torrid.com  Fashion guide video by John Eshaya showing how to wear a cocoon sweater. 

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Shopping for curvy and plus size women

"A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous" Coco Chanel



Once upon a time fuller figures were all the rage. Think Marilyn Monroe, Jane Mansfield, Sofia Loren, Elizabeth Taylor. Those women were voluptuous and proud of it.

It is said that Marilyn Monroe, was so proud of her curves that she wore her clothes a size too small to emphasize her figure. Those women understood that "Every girl should use what Mother Nature gave her before Father Time takes it away", and they succeded at it.

Today, it is figures like Salma Hayek, Kate Winslet, Beyoncé and Beth Ditto who flaunt their curves proudly. And probably it is thanks to women like them that some designers are changing and making clothes that look better filled out with luscious contours.

Tips for Shopping for curvy girls and plus size women:

1. Less is more. Show off your curves in well-fitting clothes. If you try to cover up in baggy clothes you'll look like you're fat. Instead, emphasize your thinnest part, just underneath your bust with belts and wrap dresses.

2. Flaunt. Always go for fitted, scooped or v-necked tops rather than baggy turtlenecks or polo necks.

3. Do not look at the size. I know for a fact that I can fit in anything from a skinny 36 to an ample 42. It all depends on the make and the style of what I am trying on. Of course, I find secret pleasure in buying a size 36 but sometimes it that just won't do and I need to get a 38, a 40 or even a 42 for some tops. The lesson to be learnt? Always try on clothes open minded and see what looks good on you rather than always buying the same size.

4. Buying jeans. If you're curvy, it's best to wear them long in dark colours, boot cut and not too high or too low a rise on the waist. As a finishing touch add high heels to look ravishing, your legs will look longer and your bottom perkier! A good example are the bootcut jeans from Torrid.com shown below:

Silver Jeans - Frances 33" Tuxedo Bootcut Jeans



5. Buy quality underwear. The type that offers good support on the right places. There are plenty of lovely bras, panties and even girdles that look sexy. Try them on, it might be uncomfortable the first few days, but after a couple of days you will not know how you did without them. If you have a big bust you can try Glamorise Complete Comfort Plus Bra- for a perfect hold and shape.

6. Buying a jacket. A curvy woman should invest in tailored jackets with a nicely fitted waist that emphasizes her hourglass silhouette.


Grey and Black Stripe 3/4 Sleeve Jacket